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"Sweetheart, you're not know, you're mixed," I softly pointed out to her. The topic of racial identity and self-identification is a constant topic of discussion in our multiracial group. I' m a mongrel. But my father is always knows. She was an African-American. I have a man who' s caucasian. So my kids are mingled. I am a mum of multiracial children and I know that I have two important missions.
First, I want my children to see both sides of their inheritance, African-Americans and Whites (Jews). Second, perhaps my most complex task is to promote a high level of self-esteem among my children. Yes, they are different from non-mixed children. But I want them to know that they are singular and particular, partly because of their diverse inheritance, not in any case.
It is not always simple to tell the breed to a family. Am I saying "black" or "African-American"? They often identify themselves as different breeds when the kids were younger. but she was definitely caucasian. I told them the idea of mixing as my mum and dad told me.
I' m often telling my children the same thing. When I speak to children about raciality, it is inevitable that I have my own battles with mixing, which makes these discussions more difficul. But I wasn't completely black either. Speaking to my children about the mixture, I stress the benefits of being a member of two breeds.
I' m also sincere about the fact that some folks don't like them because they're mingled. I tell them these men are unaware. It' always a feast for the eyes to tell a kid about racial profiling. I' m inclined to fall back on inspirational historical testimonials like Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and the Civil Rights Branch to declare the afroamerican fight for all.
It' hurtful and makes me challenge people's racial consciousness. And I wonder if they realise how senseless it is to ask this in front of my kids. It is my courtesy that my husbands eye is bluey. Those kind of things come from whites. Blacks can tell immediately if someone is a mongrel.
Caucasians are often insecure. They probably know that my child has exactly the same eye as my man, so they don't need an answer. And I didn't have to put up with my children being named by racists. I' m sure my children know there's something they call "N."
You don't know what the real name is. I' m worried that if I tell them, they will use it carefree, as they sometimes do with other words. I' ve been discussing this predicament with some of my afroamerican boyfriends who have children of the same age. They, too, are awaiting the real words to tell their children.
Someday I will have the job of telling my kids this poisonous term. I' m going to tell his story and his background. When my kids are drawing a photo of our loved ones, it's one of my favourite things. Each of us is represented with very different shades of our skins and colours of our eyelids. It' unbelievably cute and lovable to see our multi-racial line with her beautiful lips.
These are part 1 of a two-part serial about breed and kids. It is the feel show, "which will help kids articulate their emotions. Blowing your top to resolve a dispute with your kid, the condition continues to worsen. Check out this introductory talk with Dr. Laura Markham, who gives us advice on how to get your kids to do what they don't want to do - without screaming!